Why aren’t women as brave as they could be?

That’s a question I found myself asking today. It’s a question that has come about for me personally in being too scared to act on my dreams. It was watching a video of one of the influencers I follow, Harriet Minter, that stopped me in my tracks and challenged my thinking. She was delivering a TED talk titled “Proceed until Apprehended” which broadly lands the message that as women we often wait to be invited or seek permission to do the things we want to do rather than jumping in feet first and chasing the dream.

It made me really want to be brave and do the things that I knew would get me the results I’m looking for but I wasn’t sure how to do it. A little bit of research has shown me the following tips that I will be adopting and thought worthy of sharing with you too.

The first step is about identifying if there is something that you want to do but are currently telling yourself the story that you can’t – that’s the thing you want to be brave about. So.. top tips:

  1. Success comes in can’s not can’ts. Take a reality check and rewrite your own story – that means getting rid of any beliefs that you can’t do something or things that you believe you should do but don’t really want to.
  2. Create some safe space to fail in and get OK with that! Learning and growing takes place best when we fail (just fail fast!). Waiting for things to be perfect or collecting evidence of successes before you do anything means you’ll be waiting a bloody long time.
  3. Ask yourself the question “What’s the worst that can happen?” Cut the drama because the consequences if things go wrong are very rarely that bad.
  4. Hold a belief that comfort zones are boring! Humans are creatures of habit and comfort, therefore it feel nicer to stay in our comfort zone but that’s not going to move you forward. Time to get comfortable with the uncomfortable!
  5. Being ‘fearless’ is a myth. There’s no such thing. Everybody fears stuff. It’s just some people feel the fear and do it anyway. Make that person you.
  6. Be the black sheep – be unique, be different, stand out from the crowd.
  7. Jim Rhon says we are the average of the 5 people we spend most time with – this means you need your own ‘wolf pack’ around you – a group of fiercely protective and positive friends that will cheerlead you, not tear you down and poo poo your ideas.
  8. Surround yourself with inspo – if that means positive affirmations, quotes of the day then whatever! If it works, it works.
  9. Pay that inspo forward – know that you getting out there and rocking your thing will inspire others to do the same!
  10. Accept that doing your best is good enough – only beat yourself up if you didn’t give things a bit of welly. If you gave it your all, your heart & soul then you sould be mighty damn satisfied with yourself. Remember…. in the words of Hannah Montana….. It’s not about how fast I get there, it’s not about what’s waiting on the other side….. it’s the climb!

Go get em tiger!

v x